Dernière mise à jour : 05/06/2007

 

The gold rules for my security

 

1

Before going wherever, I ask for permission to my parents or to the persons responsible for me. I tell them : :

  • where I go
  • how I go there (on foot, by bicycle, ...)
  • who is coming with me
  • when I will be back
2
I refuse to go up in the car of persons few or not known (both, by myself and by my parents).
3
I'll tell my parents, or the person responsible for me, when I leave the house, specially if it is outside the hours of school and/or I will be doing something which is not related to activities planned by me and my parents. Even if I know the person, I'll still inform my parents. If at any time, there is a change in plans, which were described to my parents earlier on, I will inform them as to where they can reach me.
 
4
I will not accept money, gifts, or goodies from strangers or people that I do not know very well. If a person approaches me to offer me something, I will immediately inform my parents and I will try to remember some details of that person. Details such as the height, approximate age, color of hair, color of eyes, plate number of the persons car, etc... I will write down these details as soon as possible so that I will not forget them.
5
It is safer for me not to stay alone on a play-ground, or on the way to school, or anywhere else, I should always stay with my school friends.
6

my parents and I, will decide on a secret password. I will only use this secret password when someone is to pick me up or tells me to follow him/her, pretending to act on instructions from my parents. If the person does not know the secret password, I must get away from that person as soon as possible, even if it means shouting in order to attract other peoples attention. Obviously, it is not the same if I am to get a ride in a friend or classmate's car. I will also use the secret password if I have to call one of my parents who tell me that he/she does not recognize my voice.
7
If a motorist stops to ask me questions, I will stay well clear of the car and his/her reach. If he/she gets out of the car, I'll get away from the car and the person as soon as possible, and if need be, I'll shout to attract other peoples attention. This, in general, will force the person with dishonest intentions, to leave immediately. I will try to remember some details of that person. Details such as the height, approximate age, color of hair, color of eyes, plate number of the persons car, etc... I will write down these details as soon as possible so that I will not forget them. I will also tell a grown up(whom I trust) about this.
8
I am not afraid of saying NO to someone who wants to touch me in ways that I don't like, or in ways that scare me or bother me. .I'll get away from the person as soon as possible, and if need be, I'll shout to attract other peoples attention. I will immediately tell an adult(whom I trust) about this.
9
I know it is not my fault if someone wants to touch me in ways, which are not correct. I will not think of these unpleasant situations as secrets, and I will share what I went through with an adult(whom I trust).
10
I trust my feelings (when a situation is not right) and I'll speak to an adult about the problems which are too big for me alone and which I cannot resolve on my own. I am surrounded by people who are ready to help me, to protect me, to listen to me and to believe me. (Teacher, police officer, telephone line intended for the young people - in Switzerland 147 -). I know that I am not all alone.
11
 It is never too late to ask for help. I have the right to insist until I receive all the help that I need.
12

I am a whole person and I have the right to feel secure. To augment this feeling, I continuously apply the following rules, which will become second nature after a while: I inform my parents of my plans and my displacements. I will say NO to a person who wants to get my attention and/or behaves in a way that bothers me. I'll apply and adopt the "move about with buddies" system. I listen to my inner voice (my feelings) in situations that do not appear normal and I'll speak about it to my parents or an adult whom I trust.